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To All Working Mothers…

This article is the result of my going through a post, ‘From a mother to “Working Mother”…’ in the Blog of namratachoudhary …Namrata is a Great Girl. She Truly Loves her Son, and is So Proud of him that she has named him ‘Raunak,’ which means something like ‘The Brightness,’ in this case, of one’s life! I appreciate her posts. Yet in this instance, could not agree with her. As my comments, (like in this post!) would have been too long, and as WordPress suggests, I made it into a new one. I shall show the Quotes, or even Reworked quasi quotes from hers in Blue.

My Honest Suggestion: To Most Working Mothers… Don’t!

Why Most? Because, in just a few cases, She might be the Lone Parent, or the Lone Responsible Parent! As is many times the case in India, Men prove themselves to be the Weaker Sex, by Indulging in Drinks, Gambling and things, so that the Woman has to go to work if they have to Eat. To Them, I say, Sadly, Continue, with my Blessings.

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Well, the source of the picture is In the picture, anyway!

Except for Cases of Necessity like these, in the other instances Most Women-with-Children Merely Like and Want to Go to Work. The ‘Reasons‘ they offer, in which their husbands join them, are:

I work For the Child, For his better future; so that the baby won’t have to suffer in the future, It’s for the baby’s sake, etc.

They also say that A professional life is important to them, etc.

That ‘The bulk of families can no longer afford to live on one source of income (husband),’ is actually a Lie. It is Just that We Want a Certain Material Standard of Life, which is a Sickness! In the olden days it was said like this: ‘The Jones have it,’ (So We must have it). And Where has it led Us?

Missing the baby’s first step, the first word, and he/she first calling her Ma, are NOT the Most important things.

Working mothers most often suffers mental as well as emotional stress, as they deal with the mental pressures from home as well as office. This may often deal to marital disturbances. Sometimes due to physical stress women starts shouting on her mates due to which their relationship has to suffer. In Spite of these You want to keep ‘working’ outside, Young Ladies? What could be Worse than Marital Disturbances?

‘People say that working women’s children does not have a connection/bond with their mom’s, but this is not true at all. There’s no better test than to ask the children. They know who their mom is — even the smallest babies respond to their mother’s scent, voice and presence. So it proves all.’ …Does it?

ONE of the Main reasons whence the Family has gone to the Dogs in the West is that Children have had their Mothers Part Time! They DO know who their Mom is. But let the Moms recognize that those same children have landed them in Old People’s Homes.

Modern Science tells Us that It is Necessary for the Child to be with the Parent for at least the First Six Years. Every College-Educated, Computer/Tablet-Competent, Blog-maintaining Gal Should know this.

In View of All this, My Dear Little Working Mothers, to Most of You my Honest Suggestion is: Don’t. Sure, the world will not take kindly to this. …Is it going to be Material Benefits/Junkets for Our Children, or Our Presence, for which they Yearn? Ask Your Child, Any Child. Their Answer would make You Rethink. Love to All.

Reference:

http://raunakofmylyf.wordpress.com/2014/07/22/from-a-mother-to-working-mother/

Buy (almost) nothing year comes to an end for pair of Calgarians, who say they saved upwards of $40K each

One could ask what they would do with the Thousands of dollars they have succeeded in saving.

But that Should NOT be the Question.

When We spend so much money on Unnecessary things, like Tattoos, and Too-Often-Hotel-Food, an Unneeded number of clothes and shoes, WE are the Losers.

My Losses and Gains!

Right from my Youth, I have kept pictures of the Poor, usually inside my books. I would cull them from Magazines, and Old Issues of the Catholic Digest that We used to get were a Rich source. One of my favourite pictures was almost exactly like this one, though in Black and White.

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Picture from Internet.

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Our Family Situation was a Comfortable one. My Dad was in the Indian Railways, and his last salary was about rs. 450. As that was back in 1968, We Lacked for Nothing. …We could See People living like this in Gorakhpur, where We were.

During my Youth I did not think in terms of Christ living in Each and Every one of Us. I just wanted to do something about their Poverty. And Happily, I have lived for that Ever Since.

Now, this Post asks the Question: What did I get from living like that?

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First of all, It has Cost me LOTS and LOTS of my Energy. Tons and Tons of it, so to say, so that I am one Very Tired Old Man.

Secondly, because of this my Nature, Many have kept away from me! They find me too Burning?

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On the Plus side, …I Realize, and Experience, that I am Loved. It is seen in the Smiles and the Welcome on People’s Faces.

I also Enjoy a Lot of Peace. If things Upset me, it is only to move me to Action, like Trying to Get my Fellow Humans Involved in Creating a Better World.

All these things should make one Happy, and I Am Happy. Quite Happy.

Maybe a Very Short list. But when You are Carrying Your ATM card, what is the need to carry cash? Or, in other words, One Diamond is better than a Piggy Bank full of Coins!

I am Satisfied, and am Ready, Even Eager to Go, to my Rest!

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Fellow Travelers Welcome!

Let Us NOT do this!

I am Noticing One thing: Many, Many Poets and Writers of Our Times have begun, Openly, to Write about the Sad state of our World. We can see them in our Blogging Family. I am going to take their Example to show that We too have to Get into Action. But Not like this:

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Picture from ndtv.com

These people in the picture are protesting against the Rape of a 6 year old child in Bangalore.

Poets and Writers are People who Notice and Make the Effort to Explicitate their thoughts. Let Us be Sure that it is Good News for the World. Because What Poets (and Writers) Start, People Complete! Consider Bharathiar, a Tamil Poet, who Influenced the Fight for Independent India, and Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn, also because of whom Russia is Free today, (at least, of sorts!).

So, If We have come to Accept that evil could be Touching Our Very Own lives If We remain Inactive, We Have to Become Involved. But, as I said, Not like the people in the picture. I have Expanded the photo to show that Many of the Protesters could Not be having Any sort of Real Connection, or Interest, even, with the Happening. The Rape had happened in a Very Posh school. Many of those confronting the police here are… You Complete the Sentence.

It is said that many politicos’ children are studying in that school. Naturally these p’s would want safety for them. Their ‘Youth wing’ is their first line of attack and defence. They have been sent here. They will not only Push, Shove and Shout, they will also Scale, AND try to Overturn the Barricades. It is all Huge Fun, You know. After all, at the end of the day, they shall be receiving at least 5oo rupees each, Plus Eats and Drinks.

A politico’s child is safe, in matters like this, (Rape, etc), just by reputation. Even the Retarded staff in a school would know which is the child of a p. And If, a politico’s child had suffered that, the perpetrator would have been tortured and burnt alive.

Nothing Much is Really Going to Happen by such kinds of ‘Protests.’ the p’s, the judges and the police officials would be having a good laugh by evening, the police ranks would have enjoyed their part in the shoving and the cane wielding, and the next incident would have happened in the next 23 minutes.

Let us come to the picture again. As bound to be, there are quite a few of the Educated in the group of protesters. But do not allow Yourselves, Or Your Children, to join groups like these. Violence Will Ensue. Which Accomplishes Nothing.

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Now let me bring in Michelangelo’s David as my Next Witness/Exhibit!

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This Magnificent piece of Art was accomplished One Stroke at a Time. And it is said that Michelangelo would Keep Hitting, with Soft Touches, at the Same Spot, Many, Many a Time, to get the Shape he wanted.

Love Demands that We Stand Up for Others. And Peace and Happiness can come Only if We have Acted. So, What We Can and Should Do, is this:

  • Talk to Your Friends, and Organize Small Groups.
  • When You get the Opportunity to Protest, for instance, when such gruesome things have happened, Prepare some Simple Placards, and Come out into the Streets, the Market Place, With Your Family and Your Friends with their Families.
  • I have No idea about the Legalities of the matter. A Citizen Should have the Right to Voice His Opinion, to Protest. Our Lawyer Friends should advise Us in these things. The police may step in. Let us Ask them just Where We could Protest.
  • If You go to the places where protests like these are already taking place, Unless they are AAP, Keep away from the group, and Remain at the Fringes. The picture I have provided shows just how they go about it, and You know its Most Probable outcome, ie, Violence on the part of the police. Unnecessary.
  • Try to get the Media to Notice Your Participation.

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http://www.greenpeace.org

Here is an Example of ‘Small’ Participation, the kind of thing We can do on Our Own. This is about the Ecology and for Greenpeace, of course. Please Note this: If the Issue would bring in the police, in India, it would be Safe to take Your Children along.

But Do not even Think of protesting against corrupt Individuals, who will only set their goons upon Us, and Children would be in Grave Danger. We do not want to be like saddam hussein and the ‘Hamas’ who uses/use Civilians and Children as Shields and Cannon Fodder.

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We can be Happy and Proud that Peaceful Protests are Catching On, and are becoming a Success. My Congratulations, Love and Blessings on these Lovely People. This is what politicos Hate, and are Frightened of. They Need MORE of this Medicine. These People are Protesting against the 6 year old’s rape, too. What a Difference!

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  • Please Be Generous, and Make it a Point to Participate in these gatherings. Take the Family Along. Swell the Crowd. Numbers alone Frighten politicos, whose Thumbs always lie in the puddings of Getting things Done or Ignored.
  • Call up Your Friends, and Gently but Firmly Insist and Persuade that they come.
  • Remember to take some Water, and Eats, etc, for the Children. When taking Children, do not remain too long, as it would Tire them. YOU can and should always come back!
  • Remember Not to leave Your Home Unattended. Thieves Note our comings and goings.

These kinds of things, done Town to Town, Time and Again, and Again and Again, like Michelangelo’s strokes, Will bear Fruit in the Future.

On Privacy, Personal Space, and Responsibility

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It seems that Facebook had conducted an experiment on no less than 689,000 of its users, presenting them, for instance, with Sad stimuli, to see if the users Did become Sad. It seems that Facebook had done this without taking the permission, or even informing the subjects of this. This has created Resentment. There is talk of Invasion of  Privacy and Personal space. But, What about Responsibility?

To Continue, there is talk of people not able to ‘Hold up,’ and ‘Not being Able to Handle their lives,’ and their ‘Mood’ being ‘Affected,’ when they see such presentations there.

This post is Not about Facebook. …How do these people handle Real Life situations? Does Life Itself pick and choose what it is going to deliver to them? No Accidents? No Snakes in the Bathroom? Neighbours and Bosses and All Nice and Quiet?

What are We? Have We finally become a Race of the Pitiable? Should We hand over the planet to the Apes?

It seems to come down to this. Too Many are Wilfully going after what should only be called a World of their own. Which is Actually their Comfort Zone!

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Saw a report of a 9 year old Raped. Photo, taken by me with my Nokia cell phone, shows news of not just one, but two incidents, much to our shame. The news channel is Headlines Today.

The Real Tragedy in above news is that both the police and the medical staff did not Care for this Child.

No, I do not have a ‘Fetish’ with Rape. But I do not become ‘Affected’ when I see or hear of such things. On the Contrary, I try to do the Best I can, which is, Raise an Awareness, and Encourage People to Concerted Action. Martin Luther King, Mahatma Gandhi, Nelson Mandela, and of recent times, Arvind Kejriwal did the Same.

Talks of Privacy or Personal Space do NOT bring Success. Facing Issues, Taking Up Responsibility and Doing One’s Best, IN ANY AND EVERY CIRCUMSTANCE, give one a sense of Satisfaction.

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Mirror, Mirror On The Wall, Who Is The Fairest Of Us All?

‘Personality is a distinguishing feature. Not fair looks.’ From the post.
Arfa has said it all in one sentence. Good article.

Dr. Arfa Masihuddin

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Much has been said about the subcontinent’s archaic obsession with the “goray gaal” (fair skin). And while many amongst us will opine our disapprobation, there will be quite a few of the same lot who will flock to the air-conditioned stores (or non air-conditioned ) to try out another latest addition to the numerous miracle creams that are the self-acclaimed magic ticket to getting the Prince Charming who drives a Mercedes.

In this day and age, it is a highly Quixotic notion to “ooh and aah” over white skin and frown with distaste at a brown or even slightly wheatish complexion. In fact, it has always been a Quixotic notion. After all, how can the colour of a person’s skin define their roles as prospective husbands and wives and daughters-in-law and sons-in-law? Compatibility, personality and character, have been told to go play hide-and-seek. D’ Accord?

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How Make Happiness Permanent!

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PREAMBLE

I Already have a post on ‘The Way to Happiness!‘ This present post will help Us Imbibe, Personalise and Make Our Learning and Particularly its Effect, PERMANENT. And not just Happiness, but that of Love and Trust.

And it is Not only the Experience of Happiness that has to be Made Permanent. Those of being Loved, and Trust has to be made Stable too! The same method works for all of these.

Named my blog as Love, Happiness and Peace. And Most of the time have been writing on Current Affairs! But these have a Direct connection with the Subject of the blog! Am presenting today some thoughts on How We can Achieve Happiness.

I have been through thick and thin, (Who hasn’t?). If, in the Rainbow, Red is to be the Best, and Violet the worst, I have been through Violets too, many times, for long durations. In all this, Came to Understand that God Really Loves Us.

Achieving Happiness would require Many things. It does not come by waving some Magic Wand. If there is a Problem like Lack of Money, Discord in the Family, Lack of Internal Peace, etc, all those have to be Addressed as far as possible.

This post will be of Particular Use for those Who have Money, Things, and People Around them, yet feel a Vacuum in their Hearts.

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THE METHOD

Even if You do not Believe in God, Start by saying, ‘It is said that You are Love. That You want to Us give Peace and Happiness and Blessings and all that. If You are there, let me Experience them.’

Next, Start saying this verse from the Bible: [Note: Saying this does Not make You a Christian!]

Surely, Only Goodness and Kindness, Shall follow me, All the days of my life.’

That is Psalm 23:6a, and my own translation.

You are supposed to say this Repeatedly, Whenever You have the time and the opportunity. Say it As many times as Possible in a day! Say it when You have difficulty in sleeping, as You are walking, waiting, etc, etc.

I would ask You to keep at this for at least a goodly Three months. Try to say it with Emphasis on the Underlined words. You do not have to say them Aloud.

Let HIM explain Why He gave Us verses like these. By Making You Experience those Good things.

WHEN YOU SAY THIS, DO NOT THINK OF YOUR PROBLEMS, WHAT WOULD COME OUT OF IT, OR ANYTHING.

Do Not think the Mind will Not go off on those Tangents. It is Famous for going round and round its favourite topics! Thoughts will arise in Your head, saying:

  • ‘What foolish thing have You started?’
  • ‘Do Your Really think that All those supposed things are going to happen Definitely? You are saying ‘Surely.’
  • ”Only’ Good things are going to happen? Is it even possible on Earth? Why are You wasting time after seeing this one word?’
  • ”All’ the days of Your life? No Breaks? Hahaha,’ and all that.

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The suggested words, if Uttered with Love and Reverence, will Calm Your Mind, even Silence Your Mind. The Brain Cannot Multi-task! That is why they say Do not Talk on the Cell Phone while You are Driving! And other things like that.

We can do Only One thing at a Time. If We have told ourselves to just keep Pronouncing these words, and Keep our Attention on Pronouncing them, then our Famous Subconscious is Not able to bring up its subjects for one more viewing!

All this, Incidentally, is called ‘DHYAAN.’ To learn about this, please click here.

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Image credit: www.indrayanikaathi.com

It is something like this: We would like to Lift Up and Hug a Child. But the Child might be too busy, and interested in other things. Our Subconscious Mind too is Too Busy with Other things, to pay attention to, and to Receive, What God would like to give.

If We give our brain big things to do, it will become active! Silence the Mind by giving it something Small to do. And Only in that Silence Can it Receive God’s Gifts of Love, Happiness and Peace.

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