Category Archives: Marriage

Jesus and the Woman Caught in Adultery: John 8:2-11

This incident, well known even in Non-Christian circles, is, on the one hand, a Perfect example of the Pig Headedness of ‘Man,’ or in other words Male Chauvinism. On the other hand, it is a Superb example of Christ’s Teachings, and the way he answered His critics. And Teaching Supreme to Us, of course.

The Sanctimonious ‘Teachers of the Law,’ (what ‘law’ they must have taught!), and the Pharisees, those ‘perfect keepers of the law,’ – in this case, bring a Woman Caught in Adultery. The Judgement has Already been passed, by them and through them, to Carry out the Stoning.

woman caught in adultery and Jesus

They only want to Trap Jesus into saying or doing something that they could find Fault with.

Whereas there was Plenty that Jesus, or Anybody who knew the law of Moses, could have found Faulty in their Thinking, Speech and Behaviour, as in the case of this Judgement. Because, the ‘law’ on which they are relying, and which they would have quoted, says:

“If a man commits adultery with the wife of a fellow-Israelite, Both he and the woman shall be put to Death.” Leviticus 20:10, TEV, emphasis mine.

[In fact Many paragraphs of this chapter in Leviticus deal with Adultery, in Every case addressing the ‘man’ as the perpetrator. See Levi 20:10-21].

If somebody wanted to hold on to the clause ‘fellow-Israelite,’ the parallel verse in Deuteronomy 23:22 says:

“If a man is caught having intercourse with another man’s wife, Both of them are to be put to Death.”

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Those who are Questioning and Challenging Jesus are supposed to be Teachers and Experts of the law (of Moses). As such they Would and Should have known the above. Yet they have twisted it, bringing the punishment Only on Women. That is why I call this Male Chauvinism, etc.

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Given all that, If those who have sinned are to be stoned, there would be Nobody left on Earth. That is Why Jesus said:

Let him who is without sin caste the First stone.”

On Harsh Words

Found this anecdote in Facebook, from where I copy and paste it, below the pictures. It is Short and Sweet too.

Its message is:

“A burnt roti never hurts anyone but Harsh Words Do!”

[Dr. A P J Abdul Kalam is an Ex President of India. A Roti is a Chapati. Below, a Well baked one, and a Burnt one. Both images from Internet.]

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burnt chapati

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HEART TOUCHING STORY! WHICH TEACHES US THE MOST IMPORTANT QUALITY THAT IS NEEDED TODAY IN OUR HOMES AND EVEN IN OUR SOCIETY– ‘TOLERANCE’

Ex Indian President Dr. Abdul Kalam Says:

“When I was a kid, my Mom cooked food for us. One night in particular when she had made dinner after a long hard day’s work, Mom placed a plate of ‘subzi’ and extremely burnt roti in front of my Dad.

I was waiting to see if anyone noticed the burnt roti. But Dad just ate his roti and asked me how my day at school was.

I don’t remember what I told him that night, but I do remember I heard Mom apologizing to Dad for the burnt roti.

And I’ll never forget what he said: “Honey, I love burnt roti.”

Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy, good night & I asked him if he really liked his roti burnt. He wrapped me in his arms & said:
“Your momma put in a long hard day at work today and she was really tired. And besides…………………………………………………………………..

A burnt roti never hurts anyone but Harsh Words Do!”

Sexual Consent issues: Alli Kirkham’s 7 comics

Found this in ‘Bored Panda.’ Could not find a Re-blog button. Worth Seeing! Hence posting manually.

1. You are staying until it’s done

You are staying until it’s done

2. You said I could have it once

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3. You said you liked it

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4. You said you wanted it

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5. You are my wife and it’s your duty

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6. You owe me

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7. You are asking for it

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Source: Bored Panda, Facebook.

A Weird Story!

Or should I title this post as A Weird Woman, Madness, A Mad Story, or what?

Rabindranath Tagore held that a Story Has to be Fictional; that it Cannot be Factual. In that case this is Not a Story. This really happened. And it happened like this:

There is a Poor Woman  (let Us call her PW), who is a Widow, and she has a Daughter aged about 16 years now. The girl has just finished her 10th class exams. The girl is also a Thin little thing, measuring a Perfect 25-25-25, as Erma Brombeck would have said.

Now the Woman has a brother (let Us call him B), who is about 45 years old, is married and has Daughter of his own. The man is also having relationship with another woman, and his Wife is Severely Objecting to this.

The man does not like it. His Wife Objecting to things, that is. And the Weird thing is that the Woman, PW, of whom I had started talking about, Supports her brother in this, – and Criticises her Sister in law for criticising her husband!

Good old PW is going to the extent of Wanting to Marry off her Daughter, the 16 year old, 25-25-25 to her brother B.

So this becomes Not Only a case of Child Marriage. It is one of:

  • A 45 year Old, Married man with a Fairly grown up Child,
  • Already having Extramarital relations,
  • On the Verge of Marrying his 16 Year old 25-25-25 Niece.

For me the Weird thing is that the Mother of the Girl, PW, is not just supporting this, but is Highly Enthused about it.

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12 yr old girl wedded to 14 yr old boy

This photograph is Just by way of Interest. The groom is all of 14 years, and the Bride, a Full, Mature 12 years OLD! Sigh.

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So tell me, How would YOU entitle this post?

  • The Mad Woman?
  • The Crazy Woman?
  • The Weird one?
  • Something Else?

Come On, Join in!

Of Course Abortion is Murder, …BUT!

Except in the Rarest of Rare cases, Abortion IS Murder.

BUT

Our Heart HAS to go out in SYMPATHY for those Poor Women who have to face this Dilemma. Society is Very Much to Blame for Most Abortions. 

When politicos, crooked judges, drug lord, pimps and many such are Churning out Zombies and the Living Dead by the Thousands, society just cannot afford to take a holier-than-thou attitude.

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Abortion IS murder

So Ok, I too notice that Smirky, Snotty, Holier-than-Thou Smile, and all that on the face of this placard holder. But let us not blame this Old man either. He represents Many of Us. More on this later.

Image via http://www.tonsmorecowbell.blogspot.com

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Nobody thinks twice about killing a germ. Killing an Animal is Not termed Murder, But,

Wilfully Killing a Human Being Is Murder.

And What Grows in the Womb of the Human Female Is a Human Being.

Unless she happened to swallow one of those Magic seeds or something. In the movie ‘Jack the Giant Killer,’  the way Jack succeeds in killing the leader of the giants is interesting. He has one of those Magic beans. He throws one into the giant’s mouth. From that sprouts the biggest Vine possible, by which the giant is killed!

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Graphic: greatoldmovies.blogspot.com

There are Enough  so called ‘scientists,’ who say that the Embryo is Not a Human Being until umpteen months. Let’s not blame the Poor Buggers. They are as Greedy as the next human being.

It is said that the Embryo looks like a Pipe or something at stage A, and, as I am not too sure of all that they say, I shall improvise here. Let us say that the Fertilized Ovum does look like a Pipe. Ok, folks. High time some enterprising Hardware tycoon developed this into Big business! Then, maybe this same Embryo at some other stage resembles a plant. Let them take it out and see if they can grow Valuable Red-woods, or Teak trees! Maybe, at some stage it even resembles the Dinosaurs! Bing ho! Dinosaurs can roam our streets once more. …Idiots.

The famous GIGO. Garbage In, Garbage Out. Good seed, Good plant. The Human Embryo WILL develop into a Human Being Unless something had been Catastrophically wrong.

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The Extraordinary circumstance which would Justify an Abortion would be When and If the Mother’s Life is Endangered by the Pregnancy or Childbirth. And this has to be Vouched for by a Doctor. Not one of those who are for Sale, like the scientist who Advocated Leaded Petroleum, Robert Kehoe.

To say I fear the Childbirth, or that Society or my family will not accept my child, etc, do Not constitute the Extraordinary circumstance.

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Let’s come to the Attitude of Protesters. It is Definitely what the church Cutely calls ‘Un-Charitable.’ It is Extremely Unkind and Un-Christian. Sure. But that does not make Abortion anything but Murder.

Cheap ‘society’ even in the days of Jesus wanted to kill Women caught in Adultery. Conveniently, the men who had committed that act would be allowed to throw stones!

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Source: http://frjeromeosjv.wordpress.com/2013/03/09/carissimitodaysmasssaturdaylentiii2/

The man/juvenile responsible for this Child, (even if he was one of Many who might have had intercourse with her), the Family which had not brought up this man and the girl/woman well and properly, the Family which Refuses to Accept the Girl and her Child, and Society which Makes this Happen and then Thumbs it’s nose, Are ALL Responsible for this Murder.

However Old fashioned it may sound, a man like the Hero in the movie ‘Blast from the Past,’ would be a REAL MAN. If a male is going to drool, slobber and drop his pants as soon as he sees a naked woman, what Greatness is there in that? It Depends upon Upbringing. This goes for the Womenfolk too, of course.

Real Man

Graphic from: www.moviestillsdb.com

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On the Role of Society

Just as I am writing this, I came across this piece of news: Coach and Player Suspended following Altercation. That this happened is proved by the graphic I provide below:

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[This is the result of my own search on Google. In the graphic We have that (Only) the Coach was suspended. But, Careful Listener that I am, I had distinctly noted that Both coach and Player had been announced and suspended, and following the Media questioning Why the Player was, the board seems to have changed its judgement.

Though I might seem to Digress from my point, it brings out the Fact that When things get talked about, things Change.]

…Coming back to the Incident, the CCTV footage on TV had shown the coach, a 19 year old man, grappling with the Player, a 14 year old Girl! The Girl was fighting him off. But,

When the man retreated into his own room, The Girl followed him inside, of her own volition.

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You light a Matchstick and then tell it, “C’mon my Dear! Burn Just as far as the Head, and burn No father,” is it going to Comply? Graphic from Internet.

You touch a person Sexually and Expect feelings Not to be Aroused?

Here comes the role of Society. Society KNOWS that this Can happen, when You leave a Young Man and Woman by themselves. The Parents know this, and so do the Organizers. But they allow these Circumstances, Without taking Responsibility for What Follows. Money beckons! Sports is bringing in Mucho money!

This man had Enticed her, Molested her; he certainly did not Rape her. But, If the Girl gets pregnant,

  • Society, (Indian Society at large, at least), would not be ready to give Accommodation to the family in their midst!
  • Almost No man or family would come for her hand in marriage.
  • The Girl’s family might even throw her out!

Then Why are We So Surprised and Shocked at Abortion?

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The memory of an Abortion eats into the Soul like Acid, and remains there like Lead Poison. Many have Suffered this. So Just Avoid it, and the Circumstances that lead to that.

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This article is Very much in response to:

http://www.ifyouonlynews.com/religion/a-message-to-christians-who-shame-scared-vulnerable-women-at-abortion-clinics/

FGM, an act of brutality

FGM is not just an act of Brutality, it is also one of Inhumanity. It is Stupidity, it is Sin. Sin is the Biggest and the Strongest word I use.

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The above words were what I had written as my own thoughts on the Re-blog. All these words are Additions, after 10 hours.

I had published this post at practically the same time as ‘Living in the moment.’ This post on FGM Proves that We Do Not live in the Moment. Because, that child’s picture got a whole 10 likes, and this one on FGM, None.

Are We Sure We know what FGM is? Years ago, I had read an article on this in the Reader’s Digest. FGM is not just cutting around the Clitoris. It is also Sewing up the Entrance to the Vagina, sometimes so much that just a Matchstick could enter into it, to enhance the ‘male’s’ pleasure. 

This horrible, so called ‘cultural’ practice does not only pose threats of Infection for the women, it is a matter of LIFE LONG, SEVERE PAIN. I have read that even passing Urine is a painful act for those who have had to undergo FGM.

IF We live in the moment, IF We are Concerned Human beings, We should show our Support for those our Suffering Sisters and Daughters by getting Involved in the Discussion.

Just Bliss

 (Pokot girls run from their hut and make their way to a place where they will take off their clothes and wash during their circumcision ceremony)

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(A Pokot woman holds a razor blade after performing a circumcision on four girls. Practitioners use anything from broken glass to scissors)

Even though the brutal practice of FGM is now illegal in the country in many African tribes, traditions are more important than laws and circumcision is considered a rite of passage that marks their transition into womanhood so they can marry.

Reuter’s photographer Siegfried Modola captured the ceremony in rural Kenya for four teenage girls of the Pokot tribe, in Baringo County.

Draped in animal skin and covered in white paint, the girls squat over large stones in the remote village after being circumcised – a life-threatening custom banned in the country three years ago.

More than a quarter of Kenyan women…

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What is Love?!

We might call something Beautiful. But What is Beauty? Similarly, We Love, and Most of Us have Experienced Love. But What is Love?

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  • Is Hugging and Kissing Love? How do I hug and kiss my Friend, my Grown-up Son, my Neighbour, and So many others?
  • Is Giving Gifts Love? With so many meaningless gifts given, and so many given just for one’s personal gain?
  • How do You Love Your Enemy? Christ wanted Us to do that.
  • How does a Paraplegic Love? And How do You Love Your Departed Relative?

…This is How I Describe Love:

LOVE IS WISHING THE OTHER WELL.

If I Wish You Well, I Love You, if Not, I don’t. You may be Abroad, I might not even have seen You, but with this above Idea, We see that We can Love Everybody.

Supposing somebody has done me Harm. If I can Wish him Well, it is Love. I may still have to file a Complaint against him, maybe take him to Court, I may have to Control him, become Strict and even Hard with him, but… Love is Wishing the Other Well.

Love does not mean that We accept Everybody as our Friend! Love does not mean that We cannot Fight for Justice. Imagine that somebody is trying to grab Your Land. This happens often enough, at least in India. Is it even possible to give up what is Yours? Where are We going to Stay? How are We going to Live? So, We can even fight for what is Ours, Without Rancour in our Heart, and We would be Loving.

We might have been Hating somebody who has Expired. Let us Wish them Well. The Soul, after all, is Indestructible!

But This Wish Should come from the Heart, Should be Truthful, and Earnest. We cannot just mouth the Words, Wink, and say, ‘Lord, Let him have it!’

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Unless You have Lost All Your Faculties, It would Not be Enough to Merely ‘Wish’ that. You have to Put it into Action To the Best of Your Ability. Our ‘word’ will not be taken for that. After all, Most of Us Believe that there is a Supreme Being Who Watches All.

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Self love is NO Love. In All languages, Selfishness is a Bad word; but MOST people forget this! For this post, I shall present Only One picture, and that of No Love!

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Picture from Internet.

This man is going off in search of peace or something, ‘Abandoning All Unwholesome Views,’ as had been advised in the Caption!

Very Convenient for him, is it not? He is never going to lack for Food, (Sannyasis Never lack for Food!).

But his Wife has, – First of All, to Defend herself from those who would like to have her Body, and Think of Ways and Means of Caring for those Small Children, and Earn, at the Same time.

I Wonder just How people even give this sort of advice, ‘Abandoning All Unwholesome Views,’ I mean!

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What is this Wishing one Well? We Wish the Person Happiness and Peace, and All Good things. This does not mean something as silly as Gifting All our things away to them. Most People believe in Hell, an Unending Suffering. If We Do Not Want that for Any Person, then We Love. But let us Remember, Love is Not Words.

So, according to my Description, even a Paraplegic can Love, and We can Love even Our Enemies. Loving one does not mean We make him/her Our Friend! Drug Barons and Rapists will not be my Friends. But I Do wish them Well.

[ PS: What would wishing such personifications of evil as Drug Lords, Rapists and Acid Throwers mean? Do I mean that they carry on their merry way, Not getting Caught? Is this what I mean by Wishing them Well? NO.

Wishing such people Well would mean that they may Co-Operate with the Graces that they are given, and Live in Such a Way that would bring them, and Others, Happiness. Wishing these Well would mean that they may get some more chances.Love towards these would NOT be worried if they get the Harshest punishments.]

Let us Put these Ideas into Practice. And We shall find that the More We Love, the Happier We Become! Here’s to Happy Times.

And I Wish All of You the Very Best! 🙂