Category Archives: Parenting

We did not start with the ‘boys.’

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And now that they are adults, at least in body, it seems to be too late.

Take Indian ‘Lynching‘ culture. Or lynchings anywhere. It is Never a One-to-One business. They just don’t have the Courage. Because what they were taught, in their families, or the ‘church,’ has been just Crap. It did not make them ‘Men.’

[ The Men among us would understand, and would not take Offence. ]

Take a Look at this:

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Everlasting Endurance and the ECF : A Story about Never Losing Hope

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Here I am Reblogging a Very good post about Not Losing Hope.

While I do this, I think that it might help Many if I would share, in very short, my own life story here.

As a young man I had Very Low and Poor opinions of myself. Nothing to do with my Upbringing. I have had Excellent Parents. But Psychology had not developed, or shall We say Reached, all corners.

Anyway, while I had the Full Support of my Parents, I Always seemed to come against Walls.

What helped me was what I shall call ‘Bull Headedness.’

I kept on and on in trying to go forward.

But I think an Important ‘In-between’ step was that I used Every Opportunity to stay Afloat; made use of Every opening, – instead of waiting for the (so called) perfect situation.

And today I stand like a Strong Tree!

Wish You All the Same.

Hearty Kudos to Imani.

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via Everlasting Endurance and the ECF : A Story about Never Losing Hope

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Teaching, Indirectly, and More Powerfully!

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“The indirect approach, which is far more powerful.  Children have to reason and come to that conclusion on their own.” – From the article.

[ And Not just Children! ]

Read the full article, which includes a Beautiful story, here:

When Teachers Tell Their Stories – Part 6

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Christmas Miracle

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EXCELLENT Reading for the Season. Shared this on Twitter with the words: ‘Best Christmas Read.’

Serious (Yet Happy) man that I am, I sort of Needed this. What a Beautiful story!

SIGNIFICANT words, in the order of their occurrence:

God knew the bigger plan… Loving someone is the biggest risk in life… when the tears fall, my precious, I will catch every one.

via Christmas Miracle

The Story, and the Author, have me literally in Tears. …A Beautiful story of Love, of Christmas.

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What is wrong with Indian education system?

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Junaid is Very right in saying that things are Not right with our Indian Education system.

Actually, I had been thinking that Tamil Nadu was very poor in this field, and that Kerala was doing better. Sad to note that things are not much different there, making this really an ‘Indian’ menace.

As we all know, it is not enough to merely note the fact. But Acknowledgement itself is a Great First step.

1. Let us call to Mind that Democracy is Keeping things in check. Once we have noted that the ‘system’ itself is faulty, we should go through to those ‘incharge’ of that.

2. This takes us to Demanding from the School Authorities themselves that we want our Children to ‘Understand’ what they are Speaking!

3. What they are going to say is: “We are under Pressure to ‘Complete’ the Course!” And this takes us back to the ‘system!’

It is Not enough if the syllabus in ‘Engineering’ colleges be reduced to 3-5 from 8-11. …What about the Children in the Formative stages?

Unless WE demand changes in this, it is Not going to happen, and Sufferers would be Our Children, the Future Generations.

PARENTS SHOULD PUT PRESSURE ON THE SCHOOL AUTHORITIES,

THAT CHILDREN SHOULD ‘KNOW’ WHAT THEY HAVE LEARNT,

NOT JUST COME OUT WITH A PIECE OF PAPER CALLED A ‘CERTIFICATE.’

Only this would bring about the Necessary Change.

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Euphrates.

I asked my kindergarten going brother, randomly a few questions.

Out of which a question was ‘How are you ?’

He said firmly, ‘Fine, Thank You’ without a blink.

അങ്ങനെ വെച്ചാൽ എന്താ? , I asked him next in our mother tongue, malayalam.

(Translation: What does that mean? )

He replied again innocently, much slower this time,

‘Fine , Thank You… it is…’

It took me a while to make him understand my question.

But he didn’t have an answer to it. He kept mum but kept looking at me with a smile and tongue out.

I call this the very fundamental problem with our Indian education system.

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Predator Priests, Part 1

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Upon reflection, and from my Own experience as a catholic priest, would say that the reason the authorities find it difficult to take strong action against erring priests is that there are so few of them (priests).

It takes a minimum of 7 years of training. Taking my case, in my First of Seminary studies, there were 28 of us. Only 7 got ordained.

For all that, it is Both Criminal, and Sinful, (which is worse), not to take strong action against the erring ones. Paradoxically, Strong Action ‘Would’ bring in More vocations, I believe.

This is where I believe in Violence. If I were the Parent of an abused Kid, I would Thrash up the culprit, making sure to give Lots of ‘Lasting’ pain, without maiming him, – and, according to the 11th command, making sure that I am Not caught for the act.

Is Violence the answer? No, of course. But at the same time, there is Nothing Wrong with Violence of the sort I prescribe. Am Absolutely Sure it will be Much Less than what awaits all these, and those who collude with them, namely, the ecclesiastical authorities.

“If anyone should cause one of these little ones to lose his Faith in Me, it would be Better for that person to have a Large Millstone tied round his neck and Drowned in the Deep Sea.” Matt. 18:6.

Considering the Fear of the Sea that the Israelites, at least of Jesus’ time had, these were Extremely Powerful words. Uttered Knowingly, and Understood as such by the audience.

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ANNA WALDHERR A Voice Reclaimed, Surviving Child Abuse

Facade of St. Peter’s Basilica, Rome, Author Alessio Nastro Siniscalchi (CC BY-SA 2.5 Italy)

WARNING:  Graphic Images

Pennsylvania Attorney General, Josh Shapiro, this week released the results of what may be the most comprehensive state investigation into child sexual abuse and cover-up by the Roman Catholic Church in the nation’s history [1A].

Examining over 70 years of church records, the grand jury investigation identified301 predator priests, and more than 1000 child victims, across six dioceses (Allentown, Erie, Greensburg, Harrisburg, Pittsburgh and Scranton).  Sexual abuse by priests was earlier uncovered in two other Pennsylvania dioceses (Philadelphia and Altoona).

Background

The Catholic Church sex scandal first began to surface in the 1980s [2].  A seminal investigation by the Boston Globe in 2002 led to the criminal prosecution of five predator priests [3].

Subsequent investigations revealed a widespread pattern of abuse across the United States and the globe, with an institutional…

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