I had wanted to write some things on ‘MOTHER’S DAY,’ though the day is Past at least for this year. While I was hesitating, Two things came together: A Visit from my Young GRANDDAUGHTER, with her little Son, and a movie I watched, named ‘DADDY DAY CARE.’
This is my Favourite Granddaughter, Yoha, who is my neighbour’s daughter. In the first picture, We see her as she was just a few years ago, Dancing. In a scant few years, this Young Woman had become a Nurse.
Though She is Smiling in the picture, She had a really bad time in that profession, as do Most Nurses, who are Not employed with the Administration (previously called government). This last named group gets whopping salaries and plenty of benefits, even if they do not turn up for work! Many are the govt run Dispensaries and Medical Aid centres, which are not even open most of the month. But all this is another story.
Now this Beautiful Young Woman is the Mother of a Lively Young Boy, named Pradeesh. Here he is, right on my Bed!
Yoha had arrived at her Mother’s house, right next door, on the 10th of this month. (She lives with her husband near Trichy, and comes to her mother’s house once a month or so). So, though Pradeesh has seen me a number of times, it was Today, (the 16th), that he deigned to ‘Sit’ on my bed for a while. Otherwise, he wants Yoha to carry him All the time. He is at that Age, or something.
But let us Remember that being a Mother is not ‘posing’ with Your Child, and All Grins and Jolliness. As I had expected, Pradeesh started ‘Acting Up!’
Let me tell You, he is Quite a Handful! Children at this Stage of Life are a combination of Leaping Deers, Racing Cars/Motorcycles, Rocket gone out of control, and Spiderman! (I had to say that!). Keeping them from Falling off, Injuring themselves, or Breaking things is a Full time job. Of course Indians do not believe in ‘Cribs.’ They call it ‘Too Constraining.’ I do wonder how many Countries use the ‘Crib.’
Anglers would Understand it if We compare a Child’s Twistings and Turnings to that of a hooked fish. But in the case of a fish, You do not have to worry whether he would fall out of Your hands or off the bed and injure himself.
What I want to show here is this: Children, once they Reach the Age of Crawling, to their School going days, Need Almost MINUTE BY MINUTE ATTENTION.
EVERY MOTHER TAKES CARE OF EACH OF HER CHILDREN IN SUCH CIRCUMSTANCES in this fashion, 24×7, and 60×24. The Mother is with the Child Most of the Time, and Most of that Time She is Taking Care of the Child.
In DADDY DAY CARE, towards the End, the Cute little son of the hero says to his dad: ‘I would sell all my toys, so that You would not need to make money to buy them for me,’ or some such. He Wants his Dad to Be with him.
Now, my Dear Reader, my Male Readers, what would happen if You ask Your son: “If You would sell all Your toys, I would be with You all the time.” I do not think He would be ready for that.
How are We to Interpret that? That he does not Care for You? Or that he has not had the Experience of Your Extended Presence with him?
Now suppose You take a Week’s holiday and spend the time with Your Family, and then ask the same question, do You not think the Answer would be Radically different? He can make a Choice Only if he has Experienced Your Closeness.
Almost Each father seems to think that ‘providing’ for the family, loading-up the child with Toys, even throwing in a supposedly ‘good’ education, etc, is enough. And Most father’s have neither the Idea, nor the thought of asking the Child’s opinion, on the matter.
And Pradeesh’ father, by the way, turned up to be with his family on Saturday, and Pradeesh so dominated his time, so wanted to be with his father, to be carried by him and all that, that he would not even let him have his tea.
…Most Dads would find it difficult Making Time for their Kids, and Here We are talking of Taking Care of the Children.
The person being manhandled so Ignominiously, and being taken to jail, is one the world’s most dangerous criminals, responsible for about 60 thousand deaths! he is mexican drug baron guzman. Needless to say, he has loads of money.
And below We see the same guzman with one of his sons. Even Criminals love their children. he too had thought that making money and dandling his son once in a while was enough. But was it?
guzman’s money-making schemes landed him in a place which would make his spending Any Time with his children an Impossibility.
Of course Most fathers are Not as Radical as guzman in their money making methods. But We are not talking about the Money made, or the Way it is Made. We are Talking about Time Spent with the Family. And in this post, Time spent especially with the Children.
All this goes to Prove that Mama’s Day-and-Night Care is 24×7 Daddy Day Care.
As I said, I had wanted to write on Mother’s Day. Below We see a Man, a Taiwanese, en-route to taking his mother to the hospital. A picture that Gladdens our Hearts, and Lifts Up our Spirits. God Bless this Man, And His Mother.
(This photograph, from the Internet, of course, has become famous, practically Viral.)
And this Teaches Us a Great Lesson: Love of One’s Mother is NOT posting a ‘Happy Mother’s Day’ card on the Internet. That is Not Real Love of One’s Mother.
There are Exceptions in Every case, of course.
But on the whole, Loving One’s Mother would mean Loving Her and Taking Care of Her when She has become Old and Dependent. Taking Care of Her when She is Demanding Too much of Our Time and Energy, When Her Forgetfulness makes Us Exasperated.
Taking Care of the Old is Not a ‘Pleasure.’ There is some Joy in taking care of little Children. Not so in the case of the Old!
Only the person who has faced these Challenges and come out Successful in them, or is Really Resolved to do so, can say he is Loving his Mother, and Rightfully wish his Mom a ‘Happy Mother’s Day,’ meaning that he is Thankful to Her for Her Great Services.
Our Mothers have given Us Extraordinary Day and Night Care. As well as Lifetime Support. And, in Most cases, they took Care of their Husbands in their last days! They deserve of Our Very Best Indeed.